Stop Being Other Person Focused and Let Go of the Need to Be Chosen by esteemology.com Savannah Grey


Losing one’s self in a relationship means willfully shedding your own identity, desires and personal goals and instead becoming consumed with the relationship and the needs and desires of the other person in that relationship. This is a common practice for most Codependents. What it really means is that we place more value on our… Continue reading Stop Being Other Person Focused and Let Go of the Need to Be Chosen by esteemology.com Savannah Grey

Why Closeted Gay Men Marry Straight Women by Flying Monkeys Denied 


Pretending to be straight a Cluster B trait Pretending to be straight — the real reason most gay men who are still in the closet say they lie to and marry clueless women. It’s a front. It’s a cover. And for many guys who prefer to pretend in public to be straight, it’s the perfect… Continue reading Why Closeted Gay Men Marry Straight Women by Flying Monkeys Denied 

Hindsight is 20/20 by Debra Sutton


Looking back he was not the love of my life, actually he was not even my type. It was never a passionate relationship like I had with my first husband. I realize what attracted me to him. It was because he was not a womanizer. I went through a painful relationship in my first marriage… Continue reading Hindsight is 20/20 by Debra Sutton

Love Does Not! by Debra Sutton


Love does not accuse, it does not abuse, and it does not lie. It does not keep score or hold your past against you. It does not pretend.  Why do we have such a hard time recognizing when someone says I love you but their actions speak otherwise. The words I love you come out… Continue reading Love Does Not! by Debra Sutton

Finding Closure by Debra Sutton


With homosexuality being more acceptable these days, and the change in gay marriage laws, I was hoping to see a decline in women needing support. Sadly this has not happened, there are more women needing support daily. Even though gay marriage is legal there are still those gay men who will remain in the closet.… Continue reading Finding Closure by Debra Sutton

From Anger to Acceptance by Debra Sutton


Once you find out your husband is gay and has been cheating with men. Has anyone ever told you well at least he wasn’t cheating with a woman. And if he was cheating with a woman that would be way worse. I’ve heard statements like this. I have to say they are way off base.… Continue reading From Anger to Acceptance by Debra Sutton